Today was my last day of radiation, and for all intents and purposes my "active treatment" is over. No more chemo, no more radiation; the hardest part of this "journey" is (hopefully) behind me. I keep thinking I should be celebrating or feel more of a sense that things are over.

I realized this afternoon that I don't feel like cancer is over because I don't think cancer ever ends. And I don't mean that in a depressing way. I just mean that cancer has become a part of who I am, and there's no putting it behind me. You can't ever be done with cancer, because it changes who you are, fundamentally.

The word "survivor" implies that the thing you survived is now over. That was hard, but I survived it. Like it's a marathon or something. The truth is, at this point I am no closer to or further from death than anyone else is. I have faced my own mortality a lot younger than most people, and I've learned a heck of a lot as a result. But every day I go to bed alive, I have survived, just like you have.

Accepting that cancer has been part of your life is scary. Once it's been there, it never leaves, and there's a real loss of control there. There is no going back to "normal." Normal is gone now. Cancer changes who you are, physically and emotionally, forever. Something you did not choose changed you forever, and if you don't like how it's changed you or you don't quite know how it's changed you, it can be a real struggle. You cannot ignore it, and you have to find a new identity. You can fight that, but it's the truth. At some point, you have to make peace with cancer.

I have found peace in my cancer diagnosis, because I truly believe that my purpose in life is to conquer some really hard stuff, so that I can help other people do it, too. It has changed the way that I approach my life for the rest of my life, and I am so grateful for that. It has made me more comfortable in my skin.

Every moment that I have, I am living to the fullest. And I don't mean that in the cheesy inspirational-quotes-on-Facebook sort of way. I mean, if I am laying around on the couch, I am 100% laying on the couch. I am totally okay with that choice, and I am really enjoying it. I am not making myself feel guilty for what I "should" be doing. If someone else has a problem with my laying on the couch, I truly don't care. My life is much easier and more peaceful now that I've mentally gotten out of my own way.

And quite honestly, I have cancer to thank for that.  

The featured image is me on the radiation machine (a photo Bear captured covertly, as it was totally against the rules). Crazy, right?